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The Good, Bad and Ugly Parts of a Divorce

When going through a divorce there is the good, the bad, and the ugly; it is important to know ahead of time what you are in for.  Sometimes the good greatly outweighs the bad instantly, but in most situations it may take some time to see these types of results — so be patient and keep an eye out. The following are the good, the bad, and the ugly about going through a divorce.

The Good Parts of Divorce
You will get a new start with a divorce and a chance to rediscover yourself at a new stage in your life. A fresh start will allow you to get some much needed emotional healing and a chance to overcome any problems that caused the divorce. When you go to sleep you will be able to sleep peacefully and have the bed all to yourself. A divorce will also give you more time to handle your house work and your children. A divorce will give you the chance to spend more real honest-to-goodness quality time with your children; which may have not been possible while in the marriage. Chances are after you file for divorce you will find your life becomes less sporadic and your house is clean, laundry done, and more spare time on your hands. Following your divorce you may even be able to pursue new romantic interest or chances to be happy. For ladies you are even able to regain your maiden name.

The Bad Parts of Divorce
During a divorce your relationships with relatives will change — including your relationship with the in-laws. You may start to feel guilt about the failure of the relationship and start feeling at fault; even if the flaws in the relationship were not your fault. You may even begin to develop self-doubt about every aspect of your life, but it is important to remember that this is only a phase, don’t get bitter. You will also have a tendency to want a rebound relationship even if it won’t be anything serious or if it is against your best interest. It will also be difficult, while things are bumpy, to pretend like everything is okay—which is necessary while going through the legal process. You should also get used to the fact that for some time the friends that stick around and your family will throw you a pitty party every time they see you. You should also note that the constant pitty parties will do nothing for your ego and may make you feel even worse. However, the worst part of the divorce is often said to be the deafening silence that follows. You once shared everything with someone who you will not see any more or hear from.

The Ugly Parts of Divorce
The ugly takes many forms, but generally takes place during the earlier half of the divorce case. Sometimes it will rear its ugly head in the midst of a messy legal battle, but in most cases it is limited to a who gets what dilemma. This may take the form of tug of war over possessions, money, vehicles, pets, friends, and children. The ugly may also look like all the intimate details of your life with your spouse to be aired like dirty laundry in the court room. If you have ever been addicted to anything or had a glass of wine before bed be expected to be called an alcoholic. If you have ever had to stay extended periods of time away from your children be prepared to be called a bad parent. In worst case scenarios extra marital affairs will be drug up to the court and indecent photographs be used to substantiate your promiscuity. Not every case has the ugly element, but you should always be prepared for the worse when entering a divorce.

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